Friday, February 17, 2012

You have some Lent there...

Lent:  The traditional purpose of Lent is the penitential preparation of the believer – through prayer, penance, repentance, almsgiving and self-denial. Its purpose is the commemoration of Holy Week, marking the Death and Resurrection of Jesus Christ.

This could be long so go grab coffee....or a wine...and hopefully this will make sense...

I should start this off by saying that before I get to Lent; I need to tell you about how I got to where I am.

I grew up in a wonderful family and we went to church rain or shine.  In fact, I’m pretty sure there was one Sunday years ago when we went during a snowstorm.  I remember this because it was the first time I ever remember wearing jeans to church which was kind of a big deal.  I’m continuously thankful that my parents put us in church and kept us there.  It’s because of that diligence that I have a relationship with Jesus but I think it also made me more aware of the world around me in a religious sense.  My parents did a great job!

I was raised Southern Baptist and Baptists don’t do Lent for any various assundry of theological reasons.  I’m cool with that.  In fact, I don’t know that I ever really understood what Lent was except that the name was funny and that it was right after Mardi Gras.  I also knew it was something that other denominations and Catholics did...but not Southern Baptists.  Honestly, the idea of giving up TV, chocolate or coffee for just a few weeks didn’t make any sense to me. 

Fast forward about four years after high school. 

I was in my junior year of college at OSU and had decided to enroll in a religion class covering the teachings of Jesus because I needed the electives.  Plus, the research aspect of it made me happy...because I’m weird like that. 

I figured it would be relatively easy, interesting and my friends had all had this guy and he wasn’t totally whacky.  So I showed up to the class which, by the way, was in a big lecture hall and COMPLETELY full and every walk of life was represented.  Athletes, Greeks, scholars, the decidedly non-Greek, a couple of pregnant people, some adult students, and the usual Hippie suspects that make you groan when you see them because you know they’ll never shut up about some topic like trees and why they didn’t want to wear shoes.  If you went to OSU – you know about the barefoot Hobbits. 

ANYWHO, class was led by Professor Mike Thompson.  Mike would grow to be my most favored professor during my time at OSU.  He was a tall, lanky man with gray hair who had been a Baptist preacher but left to pursue a more academic life because he loved teaching.  He also loved to remind us that he was a human being and that he made mistakes just like we did and probably more often.  He was also hilariously dry, sarcastic and I looked forward to the classes I took with him.

Every so often, he would meet students at a coffee shop or somewhere on campus to talk about class and answer questions or give feedback.  I went often and while I didn’t always agree with his theology, I liked how he felt about Christ. 

I ended up one Saturday evening at the Catholic Church in Stillwater.  They had a visiting choir for Christmas and I wanted to hear them sing.  That year was the one time in my life when I think I felt my loneliest for several reasons.  I wanted to get away and to do something different for a change so I went alone.  I think when you show up to a new church, particularly one that isn’t the “kind” you grew up in you feel completely uncomfortable.  I sat in a pew near the back by myself.  The lights were very dim and there were lots of candles and the church was beautifully decorated and people were slowly filing in when someone tapped me on the shoulder.  It was Professor Thompson.  We said hi and he asked if he could sit with me during the service and I moved over.  The choir sang traditional hymns and after the service was over we filed out into the cold.  Mike and I talked about the choir and he and I wandered over to a coffee shop not far and sat and talked.  I was finishing up a paper so it seemed the perfect time to ask him about some of the things we’d covered in class. During a pause in our conversation he asked if I was Catholic. 

“No. I’m not, but I respect them.  I admire their traditions even if I don’t get it”, I said.  He smiled and nodded saying he felt the same way.  At some point, I ended up telling him that I had reached a spiritual plateau in my life.  I didn’t feel comfortable in the church I was attending but I felt that I would be a disappointment to my family if I chose another denomination.  After several minutes of rambling about my issues in life, he crossed his legs and leaned back in his chair and said something that thinking back, I really needed to hear. 

“Do you know Jesus? Is he YOUR savior? If you do and He is, then it doesn’t matter because the rest is fluff.  Jesus came to save us from our sins and to show his unfathomable love for us. That’s the heart of it all and if you don’t feel comfortable, maybe you need another style of worship. We are not all made to do the same things and if Christ is at the center and you know in your heart that it’s right go with it.  Do whatever you need to do to grow closer to Him regardless of what people think of you.”

After that conversation, I realized that I like traditions and observation.  It’s my strongest method for growing to understand and appreciate my Savior.  After college I tried a few churches and finally found the wonderful church I am apart of now.

So all that being said, this is my first year to really observe Lent.  I’ve staved off participating in it because I’ve never truly gotten it.  However, the past few months I’ve been thinking that I wanted to do it this year.  I know that sacrificing coffee, sugar, bread or meat is never going to even amount to the sacrifice that Christ made.  Not even close on any scale; but it reminds us about sacrifice.


Do whatever brings you closer to Jesus whether that’s observing Lent, having a quiet time or raising your hands in church.  It may not be my thing but I appreciate you for it.  I think in the end the most important thing is to remember about this season, any season, is that knowing and accepting a RISEN savior is by far more valuable than what earthly thing you give up or perform.

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Lessons about Yourself...

Ah January...

It's really amazing that the first month of 2012 is already over! January for me is always a hectic time, mostly because I'm busy trying to reorganize after Christmas and work picks up so fast this month.  

For those of you who don't know what I do (and frankly sometimes I don't either) here are some tasks that I took on this past week:

·        Call trophy maker’s to check on my large trophy/plaque order – my kind sales rep says they should be ready Wednesday.  I leave for Tulsa on Thursday.

·        Work on seating chart for banquet – I have little to no kind or appropriate words for this task...so we’ll leave it.

·        Answer the phone.  Lots of questions about the banquet on Saturday and mostly the usual stuff like “What’s the attire?” and “What time does it start?”

·        Prepare agendas for my meetings

·        Schedule a few upcoming meetings and get a time for a plaque presentation for a new learning center I have to help with in February.

·        Review contracts for two different hotels we’ll be using in 2013

·        Schedule a flier to go out using our Constant Contact (one of the Internet’s greatest inventions)

·        Update email addresses and send out spreadsheets to new committee members

·        Drive to Midwest City to pick up trophies.... AND naturally there are only 25 trophies – I need 26.  After shifting through boxes we determine that #26 was never made (although I have the proof for it) and they assure me it will be done by Friday.  My New Year’s Resolution is to say “Okay!” and go with it.

·        Back at office on Thursday, I get my stuff together and head to Tulsa.  Check in at the Renaissance, unpack and head to CLC meeting (Young Professionals group I head up for work).

·        Good group! We always have a kick off/idea meeting in January and we met at Uncle Buck’s (the name is unfortunate and I was hoping I’d see the ghost of John Candy floating around but no such luck).  Good food though.
·        Friday is my relatively slow day.  I got up and went to Starbucks (shocker) and then to Target until my meeting with my hotel banquet manager (love her) and my AV guy (Super Scott!).   Good meeting! Got lots of last minute glitches fixed and I cannot tell you how nice the Tulsa Renaissance people were to work with.  Everyone from front desk staff to bellmen to bartenders was so great.

·        I spent the end of the afternoon watching people come into the hotel for check in and drinking a relaxing glass of wine while reading Mansfield Park.  Then I headed back downstairs after making myself look decent to put my board and their guests on the bus/limo thingy for their Board Dinner.  Waived goodbye.

·        Saturday morning the races begin! Board meetings all day followed by a quick rush upstairs to change (I’m certain my husband think’s I’m crazy).  Then, ran back downstairs to supervise the setup of our banquet and AV and put out trophies.  Our speaker was supposed to be late but he ended up showing about 7 p.m. SUCH a great guy.  I gave him a hug when I saw him (and no we don’t know each other) and said “Thank you so much for not coming late!”

·        We go back to my spot at the back while people are enjoying dinner to que up his videos with my lifesaver – Adam, the sound/video magician who made my life manageable from 7 p.m. – 10 p.m.

·        Lots of running back and forth through the kitchen to take special surprise guests to the bathroom so they’d be unseen J

·        Get called up on stage to receive my 5 year service plaque...urgh.

·        10 p.m. – it is FINISHED! I have not eaten nor had anything to drink since about 5 p.m. so we head to the hotel bar.  Our group sort of overtakes the hotel bar en masse so I kindly ask a bartender for food.  One of our sweet members puts it on his tab J  Pizza and beer finished I head to bed at midnight.

In short, event planning is great! It definitely keeps you thinking and moving but it does wear you out flat.   You cannot please everyone and you should never try to.  You also have to remember that there is always going to be that group of people who, even if you do everything they ask, will never be happy about anything.  It is what it is.

It’s a life lesson for me – I’m such a black and white person with little gray in between.  I hate waiting for people to make decisions and just want it finished and done.  I sometimes think God put me in my job to teach me lessons about myself but isn’t it hard to learn that kind of lesson?

Okay now for more coffee...

Sunday, January 1, 2012

So Long, Farewell...

I don't think I've ever been more excited to start a new year.  2011 wasn't bad, I had some great high points but for some reason I found 2011 more stressful than not.  I think I felt like I rushed through the entire year and by the time I got to December I was completely exhausted.

To be perfectly honest, I'm looking forward to 2012 and truthfully asking God for a year filled with more peaks than valleys and more time to spend with my family.  I am asking for a year to be more relaxed and joy-filled rather than rushed, stressed and tired.   

Rather than dwell on valleys, here are my peaks of 2011 –

In April Matt and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary.  I know it’s not that long in the scheme of things but this year was a blessing for us as a married couple.  We realized this year, more than any I think in the course of our relationship that being married to your best friend is simply the best thing in life.  We were reminded this year that love is more than how you feel about someone or what they look like or what they have or don’ t have.  It’s about making promises and keeping them and about listening, caring and giving whether you get it in return or not.  Marriage is about loving another as Christ loves you.  As I grow older and we are married longer, I will never go one year without counting our anniversaries as a peak in any year no matter if it’s good or bad. 

On a very early morning in June I drove 2.5 hours to Wichita and arrived sometime around 3:30 a.m. at the hospital to sit with my family and wait for my sweet nephew’s arrival.  I was so happy to be there when Jackson Paul was born! I saw his birth and saw him take his very first breath.  It was a wonderful moment I will never forget and God blessed me with the ability to be there.  I love being Aunt Po Po J

In October Matt and I took a two week vacation to the UK.  I love my husband! He makes all my dreams come true! We spent two weeks wondering around the Highlands of Scotland, I fell in love with Edinburgh – a town where it rains most of the time and the sun only comes out once a day.  I half jokingly tell Matt we will move there someday. 

I gasped in wonder of stepping out of a subway station and walking out into London.  I saw paintings and scenes I have only seen or read about in books and sipped coffee as I walked down 1000 year old streets.  I think it only made me want to travel the world more and Matt and I have made a deal that we will do it as much as we can.

I’m looking forward to 2012 with lots of hope and more peaks and while there will be valleys, hopefully they’ll be green. 

Happy New Year!








Monday, December 19, 2011

Praline Cookies

I think that over the last two weeks I have possibly paid the light bill at Land O' Lakes.  I'm pretty sure the people at my grocery store think I have a problem with butter.  Maybe I should invest? 
Ah well I digress...onto the cookie.  
Now, Pioneer Woman I am not so don't judge my pictures and please note that the ugly white counter tops in our kitchen are going away in a few weeks. 
These cookies are compliments of Plain Chicken which is possibly my favorite food blog at the moment.  She has all kinds of delicious recipes and I've made several and each has turned out to be so good.
These little guys truly are like a praline but in cookie form and even have a nice, praline crunch to them.  I am what I affectionately refer to as a "Vanilla Bandit" - this means that I ignore all reason and just dump the vanilla in there.  What can go wrong? A little vanilla never hurt you.


Praline Cookies
here's the original recipe
1/2 cup butter 
1/2 cup brown sugar, packed
1/2 cup sugar
1 egg, lightly beaten
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 1/2 tsp vanilla (or whatever tickles your fancy)
1 1/2 cups chopped pecans
powdered sugar
Preheat oven to 375.


Your cast of characters...ignore the word "Sooner" on the pecan bag.


Microwave butter on HIGH for 40-45 seconds or until butter is melted. Add sugars, eggs, flour and vanilla. Mix well. Add pecans; mix well. 

















At this point your work station should look approximately something like this mess.
Using small scoop, drop dough 2-inches apart onto cookie sheet. Bake 8-10 minutes - until edges are slightly brown. Cool 2 minutes and remove to cooling rack....like these!

















Sprinkle with powdered sugar and sample one ... or four...I'm not your doctor.
In other news, I bought myself a pair of Hunter's Wellington boots in Welly green! While we were in the UK I felt really out of place because I was the lone female without a pair so I am training for our next UK adventure.










Sunday, December 11, 2011

Of Fred Astaire & Bing Crosby...

I have often said that I am of another generation born in the wrong time.  If you haven't caught on I'm a big history nerd and that love of history has nudged its way into my love of film.
In my humble opinion, today's Hollywood sucks.  Harsh, but true.  I mean honestly have you seen some of the unoriginal crap they produce these days? Ugh.  
When Christmas rolls around I don't feel any shame in popping in one of my all time favorite movies Holiday Inn.  I mean who doesn't like a "drunk" Fred Astaire lightly gliding around a dance floor with a sparkling Marjorie Reynolds while a big band plays? If you've never seen Holiday Inn, go find it immediately.  If you're in for a short bit of Christmas trivia, Holiday Inn is the first time in which "White Christmas" was sang.  Its set is also the same set they used for the movie White Christmas (which I shamelessly adore).
I'm also a huge sucker for 40s and 50s fashion, Cary Grant, Bing Crosby, Jimmy Stewart..oh and big dance numbers.  Which leads me to this - where is my generations dance numbers, real singers and actual talent? What kind of junk will my kids be subjected too? I shall make it my utmost responsibility to introduce real Gold Age Hollywood to my little ones someday.  Maybe I'll get some Broadway performers out of it! 
So being the classic movie lover I am, here are a few of my favorites:
Holiday Inn 
White Christmas
Bells of St. Mary's
The Bishops Wife
Singing in the Rain
Royal Wedding
Casablanca
Rear Window
High Society
Mr. Blandings Builds His Dream House
Harvey
The Flight of the Phoenix
Meet Me in St. Louis
The Parent Trap (the original one...not the one with that crazy Lohan nerd)
The Philadelphia Story
Strangers on a Train
The Maltese Falcon


Well that's a good start...happy movie watching!





Sunday, December 4, 2011

One Good Man...

I love so many things about Christmas - I love decorating, cooking, baking and looking at lights.  I love shopping and buying gifts for others and wrapping them up and seeing them under the tree.  I just don't get tired of it.

However, something else I love are nativity scenes.  I remember being little and rearranging the nativities that my mother and grandmother both had.  The little baby Jesus, the shepherds and animals, setting out the wise men and moving Mary close to the manger and Joseph just behind her.    

Our church is focusing on The Journey this season.  The Journey is a study on the various characters of the Nativity and the journey that Mary and Joseph took to Bethlehem.  I think we all tend to forget that each of those characters was an intricate piece of the puzzle.  A real living and breathing person who actually existed and lived in this world in, what seems, a million light years ago.  This is what today's lesson made me think about:
We always talk about Mary whose part of the story is clearly important but what about Joseph? 
As our pastor said this morning, we tend to move Joseph to the back a little, making him a sort of speed bump in the Nativity scene.  In fact, Joseph's piece of the story is just as important, if not more so than some of the other characters.  It would never have been the story that it is without his sudden leap of faith to follow God's command, something that was not without risk.  He made that leap of faith, fully agreeing to not only take on a young wife who was pregnant with a child that was not his but to protect and raise the child.  He was responsible for the care of God's son.  Not an easy task.  Technically by the laws of the time he was required to break his engagement or divorce her, leaving her to be stoned to death.  Instead, he spared her public humiliation, even death and married her anyway.  What kind of man of character must he been?  How brave?
Who was Joseph? Here's what I think:
If Mary's father was any kind of traditional Jewish daddy, he probably had Joseph picked out for several reasons.   
We know that Joseph was a carpenter.   In that time and even up into the Middle Ages boys as young as 8 were given a trade.  Trades like carpentry and iron working were passed down from father to son or if no father was available, boys were sent to work in an apprenticeship with a master craftsman.  If they were successful they could take on the craftsman's business if no son was able to take over or start their own.  If Joseph followed the norm, he probably started his trade in carpentry on his own at about 16.   We don't know if he was a master craftsman or if he was simply a free lance carpenter.  He must of made a decent name for himself no matter what he did.  My guess was he was established in his 20s and by the time he met Mary, he was probably in his 30s.  What Jewish father (or any father for that reason) wouldn't want his daughter to marry a mature, established man with a trade who could care for her, his grandchildren and give his family a good name??  
We should also remember that people at that time did not marry for love.  That was kind of the last thing you thought about.  Parents still chose their children's spouses or at least pushed them towards the one of their choosing.  They wanted them to marry for a variety reasons but namely for practicality - did he/she come from a good family? Could he provide for them? Was there a good dowry from her family to be had? 
Mary was very young, probably no more than 15 which would have been the perfect age for her to marry.  Heck by normal standards of the day she was getting old and Joseph probably seemed like the perfect choice.

I wonder if he loved her? He must have in the end.  Look what he chose to do for her! There really isn't a whole lot we know about him but maybe that's God's plan.  Maybe he wants us to only see what happens if we make the choice to follow His plan for our lives, regardless of whether they mirror our own plans.  It is by Joseph's example that we see what comes from simply saying yes rather than  worrying.  
So this Christmas when you pull out the Nativity, move Joseph a little closer to Mary and Jesus.  After all, good men should never be in the shadows....

Monday, November 21, 2011

Thankful...

I'm sort of on the Facebook bandwagon with the updating everyone on what I'm thankful for.  
However, forgetting what we're thankful for happens every year, every month, every day.  So, I'm glad we have this month to remind ourselves of what we're thankful for in the past year and what we're thankful for right this very second.
Here are just a few of mine:


1.  My husband - he literally is my best friend and the best thing that has happened to me.  He is caring, thoughtful, unbelievably smart, kind and so funny! I'm so blessed that I have him. When so many other women struggle with their relationships, I can honestly say that I do not.  I have never second guessed my decision to say yes and I would do it again without hesitation.  
2.  My parents - I love my parents.  I'm so thankful for their 35-something year marriage that showed my sister and I what real love is.  They strove to give us a wonderful, safe home where we felt loved and never afraid.  I never heard them argue or fight.  They took us on vacations, showed us the world and put time and effort into my sister and I.  Most importantly, they showed us God's love.  Something I hope to give to my children.  Aside from all that, they're also real funny.  
3.  My job - I cannot tell you how blessed I am to have a job.  That sounds ridiculous but in reality so many people in this world do not have one and I do.  I get great benefits, flexibility and freedom and I do get to go to some cool places.  I also work for great people who build pretty neat buildings and do some really great things for our community.  They also put up with me when I'm grouchy and my people skills are lacking so I'm thankful for that too because it is not a small task to undertake (haha!).
4. My nephew - he's still so small but my little guy is so special! I love being an aunt and seeing him smile and laugh and grab at things is so great.  His little mind is turning and you can see it on his face.  I've never been someone who just sat around and wanted kids but J gives me new appreciation for babies and for children.  How special they are to God and what a gift children can be if you allow them to be.  It's also so unbelievable that I share DNA with such a tiny person.  Love him.
5.  My Sunday School class - 4 years ago I was searching for a church home.  I tried all the usual's but when I happened into Church of the Servant United Methodist Church, I felt like I was in the right place.   Matt and I have joined a Sunday school class that we have been a part of for 3 years now.  Sometimes, I feel like we're all on a big rocking cruise ship either actually "rocking" it out or being rocked by the waves of life.  I love to see how each of us has grown and where people are now in their lives.  I'm grateful for their prayers and deep thoughts on all parts of life but mostly for their friendship.  Such amazing people who I'm blessed to call friend...each of them.  No matter what.  I can't imagine not being a part of Water Walkers.


So that's my 5 for tonight.  I am now going to drink a glass of wine and have a serious discussion with my cat about appropriate behavior regarding the care and/or disposal of crickets.  Gross.
~ Paula